2011 Learnings

2011 flew by me so fast. I don't know if it was the day job, the business, the homework of the kids, the big 4-0? I don't know.

I have a few realizations, looking back to what I experienced in 2011. Please let me share them with you:

(1) You choose to be married to someone not just on the day he proposes and actually marry, but every day of your life.

I have to admit that it upsets me when I hear of breakup stories. Even fight stories are upsetting to me.  Moreso, if there are kids involved. It upset (I said it 3 times in the past 4 sentences. So believe me.) me to the point of wondering if these breakup occurences are due to:

• media today

          OR

• midlife

I think about things like:

• where has the love gone? 
• it takes two to tango 
• communication is key
• sex works (hahahahaha! I learned though, it's NOT a laughing matter. Ask the guys.)

I still have no answer. But I did realize that being with someone is a choice both parties have to make; and it's something that both need to do everyday, especially during the rough times.

(2) Think a BAJILLION times before having kids.

I love babies. In fact, I was telling S that on hindsight, we should have started early so we could have one more. At this point, though, two is enough already.

I think I've said this before, if not here, on MomExchange: the thought of knowing that we hold, in our hands, a life (in our case TWO lives) of someone who trusts us completely, sometimes scares the bejesus out of me. Think about it, we hold the clay and we are their molders -- well, for the most of it.

So kids, and people in love, think more than just thrice about having kids, think a bajillion times.

(3) Everyone has a story to tell.

I realize that I'm (generally) more patient. Because now I understand that people are NOT homogenous, that we should celebrate differences, and that everyone, even how little, has something to contribute. Which is why I like listening to the stories behind each person. (Well, MOST of the time.)

So what happened in 2011? Age...and with age, comes wisdom.

Have a great year ahead, everyone!!